Dignity While Dating
Some of you out there have had some bad raps with women, have had a rough time of it and aren’t really sure if you’re worthy of a good woman because you’ve just had a string of bad luck. What ends up happening is that you start feeling grateful for any woman who will look your way. Stop right now. That is ridiculous. You — and every other man who isn’t a psychopath or total Jackhole — deserves someone who will treat you like the rockstar you are inside.
So you need to go into the relationship expecting to be treated with dignity and not like you are lucky to be dating at all. Here is a scenario that is flip flopped a little bit, with the man dating women who feel lucky he gives them the time of day. But he is not interested in them. See who does capture his attention and remember it works both ways.
I once knew a guy I’ll call James who made the women crazy. He dated several women at once and they always fell in love with him. The problem was he never fell for any of them. He drove them completely wild.
Well one day James was introduced to a mutual friend of ours, whom I’ll call Julie. Well Julie didn’t appear to fall for his charms right away, but had fun being goofy and silly with him. James was intrigued. He began to pursue Julie, who was friendly and nice but definitely wasn’t worshipping him (or at least didn’t act like it.)
Before too long, James and Julie were an item.
James, who had his way for years, stringing women along and basically putting his friends first before anyone he was dating, had an awakening. Julie wouldn’t put up with his behavior for one second.
She set up rules for the relationship.
One of them was if James wanted to go out drinking with his friends and show up at her house later to stay the night, that was OK, but if he wasn’t at her house by 9 p.m., he could sleep there, but she wasn’t going to have sex with him.
He had never been given restrictions in anything he did.
Well, I’ll tell you what, he quickly decided to toe the line. After all, they were fair expectations and showed Julie respected herself enough to not put up with any of his shenanigans.
Imagine all the women who were astounded to find out that less than a year after they began dating, James and Julie were getting married.
Here’s another example of dating with dignity.
If you are dating someone or contemplating dating them, lay down the law right away about what you will put up with and what you won’t. Because I’ll tell you what, if they don’t meet your standards out of the gate, it is only going to get worse.
For instance, once a girl wanted to go out with me. I let her do the pursuing in this case. She told me she was busy until lunchtime on Sunday and then she would call me to arrange where we could meet. Well (and this was before cell phones) by 12:10 she had not called and guess what? I was out the door. Gone. Not reachable and not interested.
If I had waited around, it would have showed that I would tolerate someone who was late, who I could not count on.
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