Composing Your First Message to Web Date
In online dating, one of the most important tasks next to preparing Personal Profile is writing the first message to your prospective match. Here is some advise on how to make it well.
First, address only those people, whose profiles attracted your attention. If you will meet someone of your choice, this already will be worth your effort. If you will not succeed, there is no reason for despair: thousands of new people are joining tens of dating sites daily, so you will be the winner sooner or later. Even if you having a good progress with one person, keep exchange with a few more at the same time. There is nothing wrong with that: by the time when you will get into a real relationship, you better have some options.
In our first message we want to get all attention from the candidate of our choice and, quite often the effect is opposite! How to make our first message attractive and not boastful (nor boring), so we will hear back?
If your call gets ignored, do not give up, never dwell on it, try improving your writing instead. Develop your own style, which makes you feel good about your literary efforts, try to avoid anything which sounds boring. One of the most successful approaches is writing message as a conversation with your addressee.
First and foremost: your message must be written for each candidate individually! Everyone can tell a generic letter: it is only about the author, it has no word about addressee. So, you have to reflect on your perspective date profile, you have to tell what exactly turned you on there. The aim of your first message is to start a dialogue around some mutual interests, so you have to ask your candidate specific, his (or her) profile-based questions! And, of course, you have to tell a bit about yourself.
Regarding the tone
It is OK to flirt and tease (lightly) your addressee in the first message, but please, avoid anything which may be perceived radical. Not a word about sex, no claim that you are his (or her) perfect match. Seeing someone personal profile is not enough for making such claims. Keep the tone of your first message light and relaxed, almost as if you are introduced to a new business colleague.
Few extra tips
It is quite possible that you will not get a reply. There may be a lot of various reasons for it, but accept only one explanation for yourself: your letter was not good enough. therefore, no matter how much you have tried earlier, you have to make your letter even better. Besides, always keep in mind that you are not the only one who wrote to this person. So, you have to make your message really outstanding, and, believe me, you will see the results. Try again and put there your very best: add intrigue to your message, ask questions and answer them for your addressee, you will get a response and the dialogue will start. When this will happen, try not to stay there for a long, get offline, seek a live date! Because, after all, this is the reason why you have joined the dating network in first place.