Marriage Counseling Can Help You Get Through The Rough Times
No one ever told you that marriage would be easy. Even the best relationships can be and are challenging sometimes, however that doesn’t mean that you should be willing to just throw your marriage away when you find that you have trouble communicating. Whether the challenges that are present in your relationship are because of conflicting schedules, differences of opinion about raising the kids or even infidelity, marriage counseling can help you to get through the rough times.
Marriage counseling can be beneficial to your relationship in a number of ways. The most important benefit of marriage counseling, however, is that it can help to heal emotional wounds. While marriage counseling is not meant to put a bandage over those wounds, it does provide an opportunity to discuss the hurts, the frustration and the sadness that both the husband and the wife feel.
Rather than working through grief and anger independently, marriage counseling allows both the wife and husband the chance to discuss what they are feeling and experiencing in the presence of someone who is trained to be a non-biased observer. Therapists who provide marriage counseling are there to help both parties uncover their feelings and to feel more comfortable discussing those emotions and motivations.
While therapists are there to help both the husband and the wife to uncover what is beneath the surface of their issues, it is important to keep in mind that marriage counseling is not about the therapists; it is all about the couples themselves. Therapists may ask questions and they may even make suggestions, however their jobs are not to fix the problems within your relationship. Marriage counseling, after all, is something that is used to help you to uncover the underlying issues and to resolve your conflicts.
Many challenges that are faced within relationships are the result of poor communication. What starts out as a small hurt or an annoyance, when left unmentioned – often because the spouse thinks that it’s “not a big deal” or that bringing it up would only lead to a fight – grows into something bigger. When couples take their relationships to marriage counseling, they not only find themselves in a position to discuss past hurts and current issues; ultimately, couples are able to learn what it takes to improve their communication in the future.
In other words, marriage counseling is meant to help couples make changes in their relationships. Because changes can be difficult, however, marriage counseling doesn’t work for everyone. In order to make marriage counseling successful, both the husband and the wife need to be willing to not only share their perspectives but also to listen, take in and hear what their partner is saying to them. Both parties need to be willing to make some changes in the way that they approach the relationship as well.
While no one told you that marriage would be easy, marriage counseling can serve to help couples to understand their relationships, to discuss their needs and to make the changes necessary to improve their relationships. acp13243546ch
Principles for Male & Female Relationships (FULL) – Dr. Myles Munroe